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Hi PokerCS,
I’m truly not in much better shape but might be able to help to some extent.
what’s your eco card / paypal account addy?
I will do what I can ….. when I can. … wish I could offer more.
hi, i’m greatful for anything ..
i’m
petakid __ at __ hotmail.com (minus the __ __ of course) – for paypal and eco (not sure if the acct # is needed for eco.
it’s just crazy.. I got injured on the job (nerve damage) then went broke getting up to to help her.
anything is helpful..
I will keep a log of all who can help even if only $1 and get back what/when I can
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I was in the same situation years ago except it was me that was on the other end with loved ones chasing me and trying to help me get clean. The unfortunate reality is nothing you do or say to an addict will do any good until they decide to get clean and that usually isn’t until they hit rock bottom. I don’t know your situation exactly and I don’t want to come off like a dick but if she is choosing drugs over you you might want to step back and reevaluate the situation. Tough love is what worked for me meaning that I no longer could crash or get cash from my family and non drug related friends. It’s a hard thing to do but when an addict loses the family enablers its a big step closer to getting their head fixed.
Like I said I don’t know your exact situation but I’m a real expert when it comes to drug addiction, rehab and manipulation and if you choose to hang in there for the long haul be prepared for a bad ride on an emotional roller coaster . My advice, check out the show (if you haven’t already) called “intervention” on the A&E channel. The website is http://www.aetv.com/intervention/ and they have some good tips and a forum for discussions with people like yourself going through similar situations.
Your a good guy for trying to help her and thats to be commended but don’t ruin your life trying to fix hers. Lastly, if you are a spiritual guy (or not for that matter), lift her up with prayer all through the day. It worked wonders on me.The unfortunate reality is nothing you do or say to an addict will do any good until they decide to get clean and that usually isn’t until they hit rock bottom. I don’t know your situation exactly and I don’t want to come off like a dick but if she is choosing drugs over you you might want to step back and reevaluate the situation. Tough love is what worked for me meaning that I no longer could crash or get cash from my family and non drug related friends. It’s a hard thing to do but when an addict loses the family enablers its a big step closer to getting their head fixed.
I agree. Tough love is what is needed.
While I have no personal experience in this, I have been close friends with several people in your situation. Addicts will lie and cheat and steal and beg and use every deception known to human kind to draw you into enabling them. It’s not their fault, the drug has so much more power over them than you ever could.
You just can’t compete with the drug, your ex has to beat the devil on her shoulder herself.
Well, my plan is just to get up there and get her a bus ticket back home. When I found her she was at a street corner with a sign begging for money to get back home. It’s a shame because the bus ticket was 172.00 and if only I found here when I first got up there I probably could have been able to do it.
I didn’t find her til the 6th day I was there, I was already broke by then. I’m going to work temp service all week and try to get the money. – I actually had to borrow the money to get back to Colorado from someone who really couldn’t afford it so I have to work temp service for the next week or so to pay them back ASAP.
My problem really started when I got injured on the job, I had a piece of metal go in my arm and now I’m waiting on the insurance company. I figure I can get this all done in over with in less than 3 weeks (2 weeks to get up there, 1 week to get back home.) if I work at the temp service. It’s just that 3 weeks seems like an eternity and that I’m running out of time. Thats why I was hoping that maybe I could try ever avenue and get sportsbook and poker sign-ups. This way by the very beginning of next month I could make it up there and get the revenue to make it back home. I know it’s a sketchy plan but I have to try something. It sucks because because I was getting 400/month w/ poker.com until they switched to carbon (now I’m lucky to see 50.) I wouldn’t even be having to do this if that carbon switchover. If that never happened I would be set with my plans.
I understand that it might be a hopeless cause, but I really have to try. I mean I know this girl and I know that the people around her who are supposed to care really don’t.
She’s my ex-girlfriend and I have no desire to get back with her. Actually she’s far from a perfect person and I know that if she was many of other peoples ex’s they would be laughing at her misfortune with that attitude like “take a look at yourself now.” .. I just can’t do that.
I just have to try, I guess it’s the type of person I am.
LOL — I better quite typing I think half of what I typed is just babble at this point. I guess it’s easy to do in situations like this
She needs to go into rehab.
You might want to check out state provided rehab before you bring her home.
I admire this:
Quote:I understand that it might be a hopeless cause, but I really have to try. I mean I know this girl and I know that the people around her who are supposed to care really don’t… many of other peoples ex’s they would be laughing at her misfortune with that attitude like “take a look at yourself now.” .. I just can’t do that.cause’ coke was a thing that once she first try
Was once a blue moon to once a blue sky
Now she’s wondering who else wants to go buy
She don’t got no money and wants to get high—
and my favorite part here, PokerCS comes in to help…..
—For no reason a season ‘splif’ was the first thing
One spring season while she’s out flirting
Now she sees a need and don’t need rehearsing
Esteem get a beating, life is uncertain
Ego need feeding, now the wants worsen
Beneath the demons she’s a warm person
When she’s not fiending, swearing and cursing
Behind the curtains, she’s really hurting
And while her people don’t even trust her at home
The dealer dem grin and cook the rocks down
And she without sin will spark the first stone
The feeling kicks in she’s in the dark zone
Old friends walk pass going ’bout their own
As if she is someone that they don’t know
Then the King of Kings lift her off the floor Saying,
“Life is a thing when you learn you grow.”—
if you are interested thats Damien Marley redoing his fathers ‘Pimpers Paradise’we’ll send in a little something :]
I don’t know if this will help at all or not. Just an experience I had with a loved family member. He was headed down the path of destruction for some time. One night I got the “one call” you are allowed to make from jail from him. To bail him out. In panic I called everyone I knew to raise the cash for bail. I couldn’t leave him sitting there…could I? I raised some and called another wealthy family friend and thought no prob, he’ll give it to me. Well he was the one to say no and grab hold of me and say stop, wait, breathe.
He told me this family member needed to go through this agony. Needed to stop calling on people to help him out of a jam and face the music that was his life.
So I did. I pretended I couldn’t raise the cash. He was forced to go through days in jail and the whole court system. Today he is off the stuff but still paying for his mistakes. Alive and well is all I could ask. All I could offer in the end was support to help pick up the pieces. The most difficult thing I had to do, besides the pain of watching him self destruct, was tell myself it is out of my hands.
Every story is different as yours is, but I did want to share as I have been reading this. I really hope things work out and I am sure everyone here offers you moral support at the very least.
Best Regards,
MojoHi again.
I have a bit of experience in this area because I’m going thru it.
rehabs are wonders. but also note the prices range from an affordable amount to huge prices.
I think …… though I’ve only been to one, that they all provide similar services which is the fact you can’t get to your drug of choice….. (most cases anyway) …
its very humbling to me to admit this. But if it helps one person .. then the price was worth it.
I currently am awaiting a bank deposit into my paypal account. what i can send won’t be a lot ….. I’m hurting too. but I try to send a charity donation every month to such places as billy graham ….. (in homage to my grandmother) .. and there are times ….. like this one .. where i feel sending money to someone in need …. is just as good in God’s eye .. as sending it to a church. so if everything goes well……I’ll be sending money when my deposit finally clears.
wish I could do more.
Pokecs , i just have to ask when you get her back home then what ? Theres no point in bringing her home and then not following up with other help . Remember an addict has to want to help themselfs , there is no forcing help on someone who doss not want it .
P.S. Can you please make a post here on exactly how much you need and what you already have , ill see what i can do help you out .
Narcotics Anonymous:
I wish I can help, but I’m in the same boat, my son was on drags I got him of the streets but he is so screwd up, he doesn’t get it that he has to a get a life. For ten years now I did everything for him in hope that he may change but I think I was dead wrong,he took it as a weakness pushing me around to a point that I last 55 lbs. Lost winter my wife and I where slipping with our coats on and the cell phone in my hands, we asked everywhere for help but the way the law is you can’t force any one to get help he has to ask for it, the problem is he doesn’t think is anything wrong with him, he was so bad at times yelling and screaming, breaking everything in the house that the police came many times and one time they took him to the hospital for mental evaluation a week later they charged him, that was last February, at that time I was so weak I had hard time standing up. Is sad thing to say I felt better then ever with my son in jail. I’m still trying to get him to understand that he needs help at times he admits that he does and other times he things that I’m a bad father.
What I’m trying to tell you is, you can’t force an adult to do anything, they have to do it on there on, with your help is going to be easier for them. GOOD LUCKHi there,
Been following this post closely as I myself have been in a similar boat (not drugs, but financially close to ruin). It is a horrible feeling and you feel everything possible is going wrong around you.
Some close friends of mine here in Costa Rica have been through rehab and come out trumps. It takes a while to completely recover but it is well worth it. You need to do an intervention as no one would admit that they need rehab till they loose the last thing in their life and that is their family and friends. During these stages you basically need to sit the person down and tell them it is rehab or they are in the chance of loosing their friends and family. Experts from NA will assist in this.
For the money issue I will see what I can put together and send something over. Wont be much but I am sure every little helps… post your moneybookers email if you have one.
Sorry I can not be of more help to you.
Hi, I sent paypal. I wish you and your friend all of the best.
I know what it’s like to have a loved one fall to their lowest point in life and feel responsible to help them by doing whatever you can. I learned that it’s the right thing to do to help people, but like someone said before do not put yourself in a hardship to try and save them.
My prayers are with you both.
