havng been one to have made mistakes …..hang in there my friend. I stlll make mistakes ……….. and trust me …….. kids are the first to forgive them….. so whether wrong or right ….. you hang tight to what you’ve discovered or found……
my son ….. and I hope my inherited girls ……….. will see my mistakes as food for thought…..that I care ……. and that I am making an effort…….
maybe what i’ve said is out of line ……… considering what you’ve said ….. i apologize if that is true..
but point i’m trying to make ….and I know is true …….is that kid forgive quicker than any …… trust a true mistaker on that!!!
hang tough…..be a parent even though new …. and it seems like at times you shouldn’t…… good advice …. and I can’t say that very often. PLEASE TRUST ME ON THIS ……….and wouldn’t say it if I wasn’t THAT sure … .you be a parent. it’ll be really hard at times ….feel free to PM me about anything. i’ve done little right in llfe ……. but one thing is to raise a son that went from a promising baseball career ……. ( threw a no-hitter in little league …… which is hard to do …….. to leaving that to make his own band ….. won a few battle of bands btw ……. local…….. to going to college to become a radio- oligist …….however thats spelled… probably only thing i’ve ever done right….. 
…….. seriously….. i got that part right …. and feel free and I hope you do …… to PM me about any questions concerning kids……. I have a feeling …… though can’t say for sure ….. that Lou … (Prof) ….can also give help in this direction …whether he admits it or not ..(sorry Lou…… but I know you can) …..
best of luck friend! it’ll be tough at times …..be best advice i can give …… and maybe I’m overstepping my bounds. ……. is always be a parent. never too late. worst thiing you can do is be a “best friend” ……….. or the such. almost can gurantee that!! Be support forl …. but never acceptable ….. always point them in the right direction …..friends are for support ….. parents are for …… pointing the right direction ……. that’s just how it works ……
i hope the best for you. ………… and think it will greatly work out that way ….* from some one that prob has no right making these suggestions …. but cares to make them anyway …..please understand not because I am trying to tell you how to llve life because if that is how you take it …..I have no right to make any suggestions because other than own biased (very) ….. I haven’t done much right than to raise what I consider a perfect kid…… and again …… I am biased about him (very) ….lol
wish you the best!