katsmeownvista said :It has to be on your terms ALWAYS though, not hers.”
this is so true , when my parents bailed my brother out , i told them then they needed to make him going to rehab a condition .Instead they left him owning a $200,000 house with a $60,000 mortgage and ZERO debt.Of course banks will loan him money in that condition. July 20 was the closing date of his house and when we seen all the debt it was like deja vu all over again.
No amount of willing them to get cured will help ,they need to do it for themselves.And Steve , I am proud of you , i really have enjoyed talking to you on the phone .You are a good person with a kind heart .