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Well, my plan is just to get up there and get her a bus ticket back home. When I found her she was at a street corner with a sign begging for money to get back home.
Well sugar, bless your heart.
Darlin I am an Addiciton Specialist, not only by schooling and having worked in the field, but because I have a son with an addiction. I am afraid I have to agree with a lot of the other people who have posted. Enabling almost never helps, in fact, it perpetuates the disease.
I know this will be hard to hear, but sometimes we have to hear it this way. If your girlfriend, really wanted to get home and get sober/clean…she would have by now. If she is an addict…she is getting her drug somehow…right? Even if it is not through actual US $$. Whatever way it is, if she wanted to get clean…she could use the same means to get her bus ticket home.
They have to want to get clean as bad as they wanted the drug…bottom line. They would do ANYTHING to get the drug and they have to be willing to do ANYTHING to get clean. I would be willing to bet that, that sign begging for money (which knowing people…I am sure she got) would/will never go for a bus ticket home.
I will also give you this little tip…If she is using…she is lying …doesn’t matter about what…it is part of the disease. A very wise Pastor I know…told me that.
I can tell you, I have moved my son across the country to get him away from the places and people but the demons came with him. I have pushed him into many recovery programs, which he left inside of 2 weeks. I am not and NEVER would say give up on someone. ( I never will, for my son…my only son…and the love of my life) If she comes to you and wants help…be there for her. It has to be on your terms ALWAYS though, not hers. You will know…if she really wants help, when she is willing to give up her ways and try doing it someone elses way. Then I personally would reccommend a Spiritual Treatment Program. In my experience these programs are the most successful, but it is true…some things work for some and not others. It should be something SHE FINDS, SHE CHOOSES and does all the work it takes to get in. This is for 2 reasons, when she is successful, it is something she can TOTALLY take credit for…and if she is not…YOU WILL BE TO BLAME…(ie:you picked the wrong place) and this continues to perpetuate her sickness.
I will keep you both in my prayers and you can keep my son David, in yours. It helps sometimes to pray for someone else with the same problem.
God Bless you both!
Kitty