Pokercs whatever you are short i will send you ,just send moneyrequest to my paypal [email protected] (remove x)and ill send the amount.I am a firm believer in what goes around comes around and when you give soembody in need you get it back 10 fold .
I just thought since we are being open about all our sharing experiences I will share mine.I have a brother i love dearly who has a drinking problem and a gambling problem .My brother had a very successful career and although he always drank from time he was probably 17 i think we all assume if somebody has a nice home ,full time job , good family life it is not a problem.
I am reading this trying to skip though all the details because just to write them brings up so much pain.He went from having over $100,000 cash in his bank acct to running up $80,000 in credit card debt in less than 1 year after his wife left him.I dont blame her because as much as i love my brother I could never handle him drinking all day .Four years ago he almost lost his home , my parents had to give him $140,000 to clean his act up.They paid every bill off paid off his second mortgage and left him in a situation where all he had to do was make a $700.00 payment to them , they didnt even charge him interest.
Well july 20th my brother sold his house because in 4 years that my parents bailed him out , he had about $50,000 more in gambling debts.It is so easy to go to the caisno use a credit card or a cash card and money stops being money , it has no value.
Before my parents bailed him out ,he really hit bottom , he stole my husband’s and my ID and got credit in our name.We were faced with a choice pay the bill or have my own brother charged .That is where my parents stepped in and came to his rescue . When my parents did all this , I told them they should make him go to rehab for his addictions and definitely they needed to have title to his house or i knew he would refinance sooner than later.
They didnt listen to me , paid all these bills and end result was same anyway.Right now my brother has no home , no car and less than $6000.00 to his name.I am 40 years old and he is 48 years old and he is like my child.My mother covers for him ,tells me all the time not to tell my dad that he ran up 50k in debt since they cleared all his bills for him.We just got back from 3 week vacation that my parents were suppose to come on.My mom said they couldnt afford it ‘in case’ Gerry owed more than they were aware of.I use to feel sorry for those who had addictions but now i am feeling more anger and I think it makes you harder and stronger to not fall for the bullshit that you will surely go through with her.sometimes people only need a helping hand up and I am always willing to give that to anyone but trust me after having 15 plus years experience ,it is worst when there is a enabler around .I know if my parents had made a tough deciision 4 years ago our life and my brothers will be better.as long as mom and dad sucker in ,he will never change.Awful at their stage of their life to deal with this too .
Anyway said my piece for now!
J