I don’t know if this will help at all or not. Just an experience I had with a loved family member. He was headed down the path of destruction for some time. One night I got the “one call” you are allowed to make from jail from him. To bail him out. In panic I called everyone I knew to raise the cash for bail. I couldn’t leave him sitting there…could I? I raised some and called another wealthy family friend and thought no prob, he’ll give it to me. Well he was the one to say no and grab hold of me and say stop, wait, breathe.
He told me this family member needed to go through this agony. Needed to stop calling on people to help him out of a jam and face the music that was his life.
So I did. I pretended I couldn’t raise the cash. He was forced to go through days in jail and the whole court system. Today he is off the stuff but still paying for his mistakes. Alive and well is all I could ask. All I could offer in the end was support to help pick up the pieces. The most difficult thing I had to do, besides the pain of watching him self destruct, was tell myself it is out of my hands.
Every story is different as yours is, but I did want to share as I have been reading this. I really hope things work out and I am sure everyone here offers you moral support at the very least.
Best Regards,
Mojo