The unfortunate reality is nothing you do or say to an addict will do any good until they decide to get clean and that usually isn’t until they hit rock bottom. I don’t know your situation exactly and I don’t want to come off like a dick but if she is choosing drugs over you you might want to step back and reevaluate the situation. Tough love is what worked for me meaning that I no longer could crash or get cash from my family and non drug related friends. It’s a hard thing to do but when an addict loses the family enablers its a big step closer to getting their head fixed.
I agree. Tough love is what is needed.
While I have no personal experience in this, I have been close friends with several people in your situation. Addicts will lie and cheat and steal and beg and use every deception known to human kind to draw you into enabling them. It’s not their fault, the drug has so much more power over them than you ever could.
You just can’t compete with the drug, your ex has to beat the devil on her shoulder herself.