It’s funny! I have been seeing more and more about this.
I have the same problem, and I contacted Site Advisor. They do not actually scan any software. It’s user submittal. I DID follow all of the precedures, with respect to their review process and nothing was solved.
So, this is what I did.
I went to Norton Antivirus or norton.com and created an account. I had a manual scan done of the software that my affiliate provides and it came up completely clean.
I then created a link from my website index that has a norton seal of approval. At least this way users can see that Norton, who have been around many years before Mcafee, approved my site. You can see the Norton banner on my site: http://32x.com
I created the banner in Adobe, using an existing Symantec (Norton) logo.
As far as Site Advisor, I do not know what to say. They will not bend!