Pat,
Forgive me for not responding to this sooner. I’ve been real down. Have been wallowing in my own self pitty. On Aug. 31st was 2 years since I lost my Mom. and a few months later her Mom, my Grandma. I had gotten intouch with my Dad (who left when I was 1 year old. Last saw him 25 years ago.) after Mom & Gram passed and that didn’t go so good. In short, Mom and Gram were all I had left.
Shame on me for wallowing in my own self pitty and not acknowledging your FANTASTIC news. I couldn’t be happier for you.
I actually think my point in telling you about my wallowing and my Dad is, I think I was looking to my Dad who I hadn’t seen in over 25 years, to replace the love and affection I had from my Mom and Gram who had passed. different circumstance but, the man hadn’t given me any love, affection or even acknowledgement for over 25 years. ( I had tried all my life to talk to him) How could I expect him to suddenly give it?
When I was younger, he had always wanted a son. Shame on me, being born female. 27 years ago, he had a son and his son is his life. Perhaps as the years went on and I contacted him 2 years ago, he had grown also and accepted and seemed to want his daughter, me.
In short, I think we both are guilty of going into overkill trying to get the relationship we both “thought” we should have. Too much, too soon:( We haven’t talked since last year and probably never will, again.
My point in telling you this personal info is so that you don’t make the same mistake. Yes, you have been separated for what may seem like forever and you want the bond you have dreamed of. Take it from me, it doesn’t happen overnight. Some may argue that life is short. Yes, it is but not all that short that we can take our time to get to know eachother. Even though we may be blood, does not automatically make us know one another. And we should not expect it to be that way. Although, that’s not how my Father thinks as he was with the Yankees and was frustrated as hell that I don’t know nor care a dam thing about baseball. (Prolly because he was involved in it.lol) We are all individuals and should respect eachother as such. Blood or not.
Please accept my apologies and I wash you, your daughter and family a lifetime of happiness.
S~