Very intersting post. Looks to me like if you had worked with Bonustreak you would have kept a decent affiliate but you chose not to. As far as using posts for leverage, Bonustreak didn’t use the post as leverage, they are pulling your banners as leverage.
One of the best things I gather from this board is seeing how affiliate programs treat their affiliates. If you won’t negotiate with an affiliate who sent 40-50 depositing players, that is a rather clear indication that you are not someone I would like to work with. And then choosing to post your “unfortunate” statement just cements my thoughts.
You mentioned in your post that the negative carry-over has been erased for some affiliates. Maybe if you could enlighten us with the situation that one would have to reach to get this treatment it would help others understand what needed to be accomplished.