I think a lot of this stuff gets way out of hand. Cindy likes to claim she is the one being picked on all the time, yet she initiates some of the worst attacks. In fact if things are quiet for any length of time she starts a fight just to remain in the lime light.
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I added an x in front of the links in your post to reduce the likelyhood of someone accessing the private areas through referring url. I have no problem with direct links in the public areas, but in private lets try to keep links discrete. Please remember to put an x in front of links. Users can paste the link into their browser and remove the x manually. While not a cure all it does help maintain our privacy here.