Living on your own for the first time at 35 – scary stuff? It’s increasingly looking like I will be in the same situation soon (at 38).
I hope you guys are talking about having to live on your own as a result of something besides being pushed out of the nest.
Don’t get mad if that’s true. You guys know better than anybody that’s a legit statement. You’re too damn old to be still living with mom and dad.
Okay, enough digs. We all start out at some point and where you may be starting out on your own in that respect at your current age: I started out gaining my independence at about the same age (as you) in respect to making an income separate from a weekly paycheck situation.
So we’re not too much different.
If you are putting off getting out on your own at the age of 30+ then I have some excellent advice which is heart-sent. Its obvious you have strong ties with your parents and as such you should get out on your own while you have the opportunity because the time is coming much sooner than you (or anybody: especially the parents) would like when it will become necessary to either live with your parents again (though it may be likely they’ll be staying at your house) or at least be spending a large amount of your time at their house taking care of them.
This isn’t a bad thing, Its quite honorable. But IMHO everyone deserves a time to have spent on their own without the responsibilities of having to be there to take care of your loved ones.
I recall when I was young I’d hear older people talking of having to care for their parents but it never sunk in my time was coming. It has.
So don’t be putting off getting out there. pay the costs of finding a home of your own and in about 20 years (which trust me will come all too soon though that will never sink in right now to the extent it should) … you’ll actually thank me for this advice.
Good luck and enjoy the excitement that comes with the risk involved.
Cheers
S.
ps, though I won’t be PMing you Dice, welcome back my friend.